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Five Things to Know if You’re Getting Separated or Divorced

Many of us will experience separation or divorce during our lives. Not all relationship break-ups will be the same, however, as some will be amicable and straightforward, while others can be fraught and complicated.

Whether it’s you who’s going through a separation or divorce, or it’s someone you know, it’s good to figure out what might happen during this difficult time. Below are just some of the things someone going through such life events should think about.

Get Support

Having support from others is crucial when healing after a divorce or break-up. You may want to be alone, but it could make this time more difficult if you isolate yourself — so don’t try to do this alone.

It’s a good idea to meet up with friends and family members you can trust. Talking with those who have been through these painful situations can be helpful. Spend your time with people who value and support you because it’s important to be honest about what you’re experiencing without worrying about being criticised, judged or told what to do. Get other help if you need it too, such as from a counselor or a support group, or go out and meet new people.

Get Up to Speed on Your Finances

You can feel like you’re out of the loop if you separate and your partner was the one who handled your finances in the relationship. Get credit cards in your own name, as good credit will be the base of your financial well-being when you’re single. Also close your joint credit card accounts, because you can be held responsible for debts your partner may incur, particularly if you don’t have a legal agreement that states otherwise.

Get a Legally Binding Separation Document

If you can do only one thing, then this should be it. Such an agreement can list the terms you must abide by while you’re still legally married, but living apart. You should protect yourself financially during a separation.

The agreement should also include who is liable for debts incurred during this time, along with insurance needs, how to divide marital assets and retirement savings, and a waiver of inheritance. You should consult Divorce Solicitors for this agreement.

Be Gentle and Keep Good Boundaries

Separation is rough on both partners. Therefore it’s important for you to be gentle where you can, even if you’re hoping for a reconciliation, or even you aren’t, but you have children to consider.

This is because the more animosity and anger that you bring, the less likely you’ll be able to get what you need. You should clearly say that you cannot be together, but don’t start picking up on previous discussions.

Separation Doesn’t Need to Be the End

Some marriages progress from separation to divorce, as not all of them are suited for the long haul. Yet some can recover from separation and be stronger than ever. If you’re both committed, you can find a route forward together.

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